when forgiveness feels impossible 🕯️🪨

People love telling hurting people to forgive. They say it like handing you a coupon. Like it's simple. Like you can just decide to stop feeling the damage 🫠 But forgiveness, if it comes at all, doesn't usually arrive because someone pressured you at the wrong time.

You are not a bad person because you're not ready 🪨🤍 You are not bitter because your heart still flinches. You are not spiritually defective because the wound still has a name. Maybe forgiveness will come later. Maybe it will look different than people expect. Maybe the closest thing you have tonight is, 'I don't want this pain to run my whole life anymore.' That's enough to begin. Also, forgiveness doesn't mean access. It doesn't mean pretending it was fine. It doesn't mean inviting the person back into rooms they burned. Don't rush your healing to make other people comfortable. Some pain needs time, witness, and distance before it can loosen its fists 🌙