when you're the backup plan too often 🪑💔

There is a very specific hurt in realizing someone likes having access to you, but not responsibility for you 😶 They come when they're lonely, bored, guilty, or suddenly missing your warmth. They know you'll answer. They know you'll make room. They know your heart has a soft chair always pulled out for them.

But you are not a waiting room 🪑🤍 You are not someone's emotional snack between real commitments. You're a whole person, with needs, with timing, with a heart that shouldn't have to survive on leftover attention. If they only reach for you when life gets quiet, that's not closeness. That's convenience wearing perfume. Tonight, I hope you stop confusing being needed with being chosen. Needed can feel warm for a second, but chosen feels steady. You deserve steady. You deserve someone who doesn't treat your love like an emergency contact they never update 📱🌙